At 1 p.m. on Monday afternoon I was perched on a stool in Intelligentsia Coffee in Venice Beach between two hipster boys while exchanging iMessages with my guy friend in Scottsdale, Arizona. We were on the same sex-related subject that has pervaded our text logs ever since meeting.


Feeling Ill-Prepared

Any task that we don’t know how to do is ten times more daunting and laborious than those that we thoroughly understand.

For example, for years I dreaded giving presentations at work. Each time I stood in front of a boardroom of people, there was a 50-50 chance that I would fumble my way through.

Admittedly, I would often gloss over details I didn’t get and pray they didn’t come up during Q&A – and that my cute outfit was enough to distract viewers from a mediocre performance.


One day while expressing my anxiety over an upcoming meeting, a coworker suggested that I prepare for the presentation by writing out note cards, asking questions to parts I don’t understand and practicing in front of the mirror.

Why hadn’t I thought of that?! It was the very reason for each painstaking hour of preparation for college group presentations.


Pleasure Preparation

To be honest, my communication skills and attention to details in the bedroom have been synonymous with those in the boardroom. Even when by myself. Despite 28 years to learn the subject, I was still lacking an intimate knowledge resulting in anxiety and subpar experiences. It didn’t occur to me that I should review some material and perhaps, practice in front of the mirror.

Because of this, I was intrigued when I read about OMGYes on Refinery29, the latest online training program that claims it’s “lifting the veil on women’s pleasure.”


After signing into the website, I realized that it is not simply lifting the veil; it is providing note cards, expert opinions and a practice run.

Exactly what I need.

OMGYes Teaches Women’s Pleasure

With the help of over 1,000 women, as well as researchers Indiana University’s School of Public Health and The Kinsey Institute, OMGYes provides training videos featuring real women. The techniques include:

  1. Edging: Bigger orgasm by approaching and denying
  2. Hinting: Passing by and only occasionally indulging
  3. Consistency: Building orgasm by keeping everything the same
  4. Surprise: Defying expectation to enhance pleasure
  5. Rhythm: A well-timed, almost musical loop of motion
  6. Multiples: Overcoming sensitivity to build multiple orgasms
  7. Accenting: Extra attention to part of a motion
  8. Framing: How pleasure is mostly between the ears
  9. Layering: Indirect pleasure through surrounding skin
  10. Staging: How everything changes moment by moment


Since their research with the Kinsey Institute showed that only 10% of women discovered the things that actually work for them from reading, users are given the chance to try for themselves. With the world’s first touchable videos, you can use your iPhone or tablet to test out your new knowledge and receive feedback in real-time… from the women in the video.

Is that weird?


Testing Out OMGYes

After watching half of the lessons and completing a couple, there was something that was admittedly as enlightening as the approach/deny method.


“I didn’t realize how different girls’ vaginas look – have you seen a lot of variation?” I iMessaged my guy friend.

“Oh yea, that’s the biggest difference between us boys and girls and our bodies. We grew up showering together, sharing stories, and exploring girls’ bodies. I feel like girls have always been so guarded about the topic.”

He was right. Between sex ed, the women’s locker room and nearly-nudist roommates, I still had no idea that such a wide variety existed.


OMGYes or OMGNo?

  • Would a girl want her boyfriend to try out techniques on virtual girls?
  • Would a heterosexual girl feel comfortable intimately touching other girls?
  • Would guys use it as porn?

These are all questions I coudn’t help but wonder as I completed the videos.

Did I feel slightly uncomfortable touching Zoey via my iPhone? Yes. Was it something I should probably get over and learn how to do though? I think so. Because what I do know is who can benefit from the website:

  • The girl who wants to better understand her own body
  • The guy or girl who is interested in pleasuring women in the same way that they seek pleasure
  • Anyone who is over mediocre experiences


Once I started preparing for presentations, the anxiety subsided. I didn’t dread Q&A – ask away. I didn’t gloss over details because I took the time to understand. After experiencing post-presentation highs, I realized I really enjoyed them when I wasn’t winging it.

Now the same will be true when it comes to pleasure. It’s amazing how some research, shared knowledge and a little practice can turn “OK” into “OMGYes.”


To try out OMGYes: OMGYes Try It